Monday, November 21, 2016

How to Prepare for the Interview?

An interview can be a nerve wracking experience. What should I wear? What should I say? What questions should I ask? As a Corporate Recruiter and Senior HR Specialist I've seen some of the best and the worst of interviews. From my experience I've found that there are three main areas that people should focus on when preparing for an exceptiona interviewing experience.

1. Research 

Always start any job search with research. Once the job interview is landed, this becomes even more important. Read about the company history, culture, recent news and any other insights you can find. You should also review the job description that you've applied to. Be prepared to ask and be asked questions about the company and the job. Next, you'll need to do some research on yourself. Sound a bit strange? Well, I'll explain what I mean by this. Do you know what skills and/or knowledge you will bring to the company? Do you remember the kinds of projects you've taken on in the past few years and how they've prepped you for the role you are applying to? Do you know and understand everything you've listed on your resume? (Interviewers use resumes often to prepare additional questions)


Saturday, October 22, 2016

It's Coming. . .The Walking Dead Season 7!

I am a total The Walking Dead watcher. So you can imagine that I have been racking my brain about what will happen in this next season 7. With the introduction of Negan, everyone is wondering who will us viewers have to say goodbye to next? Let's recap who we've lost over the seasons shall we? It's been a long ride through this zombie-land roller coaster! 

Want a quick summary of the key members we lost? Take a peak below. 
**Disclaimer - there are so many that die on this showed, I've really only highlighted those that were pretty key for the show. **

Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Makeup Tutorials for Dark Brown Skin

With the thousands, OK maybe millions, of videos out there on makeup, it can be difficult to get through the shuffle to find a really nice makeup tutorial for brown skin. I have a list of my top 7 favorite makeup YouTubers.  I am not saying that these are the only ladies you should look at, or that they are the best on YouTube, however these personally are the ones I like to reference for certain looks. The list should give a great place to start for someone new to YouTube or even makeup. 

1. Ellarie - This lady not only has AMAZINGLY youthful, beautiful skin, but she provides great tutorials for brown skinned ladies. I would say her niche is more Viva La Glam, however she has a number of everyday looks as well. If you are looking for looks that are on trend that will look great on your sun-kissed skin, look no further! 




Thursday, October 13, 2016

5 Gorgeous Nigerian Models To Follow on Instagram

Named Miss World in 2001, this Nigerian beauty is at the top of my list. 


Linda is a model and actresses, mos known for her acting in the TV series Tinsel


High fashion super model and hosted West Africa's America's Next Top Model TV series. 



Aminat Ayinde caught the attention of many when, in 2009 she was a contestant at the America’s Next Top modelling competition.



Osas is both model and actress. Though she was born in New York, USA, her parent were Nigerian. She also played in the TV series Tinsel and currently lives in Nigeria. 




Do you know of other Nigerian beauties to add the list?


Cheers!
Jess

Monday, October 10, 2016

10 Beautiful Brown-Skinned Celebrities

1.Gabrielle Union

Gabrielle Union is one of my favorite actresses. Ever since I watched the movie Bring It On, I thought she was gorgeous and as a darker toned girl, I looked up to her for her beauty, intelligence and talent. 

Thursday, October 6, 2016

Not Another PowerPoint!

At the start of this Fall season, I attended an all day training session hosted and led by AAIM Employers' Association. AAIM is a local organization that offers employer networking and professional training opportunities. One of the mini-sessions that I attended was on presentation. Let's call it Presentation Skills 101. Many interesting tidbits were shared and I noted some key takeaways to use for my next presentation. My biggest takeaway from the presenter, Mark G. Moyer is to be careful of using or overusing PowerPoint. But, why you ask? Haven't we all been taught to develop really cool PowerPoints, filled with nice content, moving text, pictures and such? Well here are the three reasons why I've opted to use less PowerPoint.  

1. The Audience    



PowerPoint presentations cause both you and your audience to focus more on the PowerPoint content, than the message you are trying to portray or the information that you are providing. How many times have you found yourself simply reading a PowerPoint slide along with the speaker? All of the focus should be built around the audience. PowerPoint should just be a tool used in order to help you show information, tell a story or give a message. Never begin developing a presentation by building PowerPoint slides. The presentation itself should be developed and then we should determine whether PowerPoint, handouts or other items are needed.   

2. Capturing Attention  



"That PowerPoint was amazing! It completely captured my attention! "Said no one. Ever. PowerPoint simply does not catch a person's attention. Many speakers, including the speaker at AAIM, raised the point that a good presenter must always get the audience's attention early. Suggestions on how to this included the speaker telling a relevant story, giving a quote or asking a question of the audience. Never did he say, wow the audience by showing a slide. It just doesn't do the job. 

3. Length



"You need a slide for each minute of your presentation". Have you heard this one before? Well, this is one myth that the presenter quickly dismantled. For an hour presentation, does it really make sense to make you and your audience go through 60 slides? Of course not! But when you think about it, PowerPoints quickly tend to get filled with unnecessary slides. Header slides, bullets slides, picture slides, data slides, you name it! You end up with a presentation filled with useless content that seems to have no end. When you build a presentation then use PowerPoint as a resource to enhance certain points, there won't be as many slides. And your audience will thank you for it. 

Regards,
Jess

Friday, August 12, 2016

7 Ways I Save Money on Groceries

1.      Ibotta App
The Ibotta app offers rebates on everyday items that you buy at stores like Target, Walmart, CVS and many others. There are also rebates offered at restaurants and popular clothing retailers. You will need to scan your receipts to get the deals so be sure to save those! In two weeks I earned $20 in rebates, with my regular shopping visits. (Fun tip: Scan the items’ bar code that you are going to purchase before checking out to make sure the rebate will work for that item.)
Sign up by clicking the link here.



2.      Keep A List
Every time I have entered a store without a list, I have ended up buying at least about 10 things I didn’t need. The whole idea of not going to the store hungry has nothing on going to the store without a list! I keep a list in my iPhone with my regular grocery items. I don’t have specifics on the brand or anything, in order to be flexible to use coupons and offers. For example, I will have 2 meats (turkey, Chicken or seafood) 2 items,;10 frozen veggies, 5 fruits etc.Put together a list and you'll be sure t purchase the items you need and leave the stores with more money in your bank account. 

3.      Coupons.com
I typically look for coupons at this easy to use site. If I have cereal on my list, then I will choose a cereal with a coupon offer and hopefully a rebate as well. The double savings actually happens more than you might think! Check for coupons and save those you find into an envelope and keep them in your purse or car so that when you're out shopping you'll have them available.  

4.      Check Expiration Dates
Nothing is worse than snagging a great deal and bringing the item home to then realize that it will expire the next day. Always check the expiration dates. I am not saying not to buy something at a great price if it will expire soon, but checking will help you plan around it. In most cases there will also be items with later expiration dates to pick from, so checking gives you the opportunity to check.



5.      Look for Manager’s Specials
Look for a manager’s special on meat at your grocer then freeze them. This is how I purchase the majority of my meat actually.

6.      Buy produce at Aldi stores
Save your bags from other stores, grab a quarter and head on over to your local Aldi store. Aldi is a Germany based low cost grocery store chain. I like shopping at Aldi, because I can find nice produce at really reasonable prices. I also like to purchase the Simply Nature brand of snacks, sauces and dry foods as well. I would not recommend purchasing the meat. I would stick with your local grocery stores on that one! Aldi really stands out because you can find quality items at a discounted rate. Sometimes there are even name brands available!

7.      Buy in Larger Quantities

You will notice that in most cases, the bulkier items, are usually a couple of cents or even a dollar or two cheaper than the smaller portions when looking at the overall value. Going with "cheaper" upfront costs may seem tempting, but it is almost always better to buy in bulk to feel the savings later.

I hope that you will find these tips helpful. Now go out there and save $ on your groceries this weekend! 

Jess

Sunday, July 31, 2016

Can Accessories Improve Your Interview?

Just a few weeks ago, I attended a party where some ladies were promoting a line of high fashion jewelry by the name of Park Lane. The head representative there was extremely lively and soon began entertaining the group with a few stories. She shared some of her background and told us how she began working with the company. During the story telling session, I heard her say something very interesting. She mentioned that over her years of selling jewelry, she's had quite a few customers that work in the HR field. They have often told her that job interviewers that wear nice jewelry have great interviews! We discussed this for a few moments and after the event I decided to do some thinking and researching about this. Though I don't agree completely with the idea that wearing jewelry in itself can help a person interview well, I have listed a few reasons why wearing jewelry to an interview can be beneficial.


1. Confidence

The motto is true that when you look good, you feel good. Typically women and men wear jewelry to enhance their look. I will personally say that I feel just a bit more confident when I see myself wearing a piece of sparkly jewelry. Moreover, whenever I look really nice I feel more confident and tend to have a better day. I will also say that wearing jewelry should not just be a confidence booster for women, but men as well. Most men I've met in the professional sector will also wear a really nice watch to top of their look as well. It's common for men to bring out their look with a nice and colorful tie. Men can also accessorize with man bracelets, rings, and glasses if they wear them

Really, whatever makes you feel comfortable and the most attractive, will allow for a better interview. One thing to be careful of is to make sure that you are not overly flashy with your accessories. Consider wearing a statement piece or two, but do not go overboard. What's over board you ask? Well, here are a few examples. Generally, anything that would be distracting with noise or bright colors should be avoided.


2. Conversation starters



Sunday, July 24, 2016

7 Motivating Quotes

Sometimes it is easy to become discouraged as you are working towards your goals. Whether your goals are financial, career related or personal there can be times that you may feel less motivated. The video below highlights a few motivating quotes. These quotes should be a reminder of just how strong and powerful you are. Please be encouraged and know that you can achieve whatever you believe you can. 

Best wishes!

Jess




Sunday, July 10, 2016

Keeping Social and Political Views Out of the Workplace

With the political and social turmoil raging throughout the U.S., Europe and many other regions, it can be difficult to abstain from discussing your personal views with those at work. I advise not interacting in political and social discussions at work for three main reasons, which I have outlined below. 

1. Relationships in the Office

Think about your supervisor, colleagues and direct reports. Each of these groups of people will have differing opinions than you on at least one issue. There will also be certain issues that people are very passionate about, which can lead to some very heated debates. Your work relationships can suffer as a result of these debates. You don't want the people you work with to have a reason to suddenly look at you in a negative light or constantly debate you on various issues. It is also well known that all people have (conscious and unconscious) bias to those that look, act or think differently than them. When people know your views oppose or support their own, it can lead to favoritism or inequity. For example, let’s say that your manager knows you oppose his views on immigration reform due to a conversation you both had some weeks ago. An opportunity arises to promote you or your colleague and he chooses to promote your colleague. How would you know in certainty that knowledge of your personal views did not influence the decision in some way?  This is an example of how these discussions can potentially cause tension and negative actions. Please discuss personal views outside of the workplace to ensure you do not hinder your work relationships or career development. 

Monday, July 4, 2016

Who are the Mean Girls in your office?

Every office has a group of "Plastics" that can be comparable to those in the movie, Mean Girls. That movie is still one of my favorites. It not only demonstrated how "high school" politics play out, but also college and the typical office as well.Within an office or department, there will always be a clique or group of people that stay ahead of the pack. Let's take a look at the office Plastics.



Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Job Highlight: Digital Strategist and Social Media Strategist

I received a question on Twitter recently asking about some of the skills that a communications agency looks for in a Digital Strategist candidate. This led me to think it would be a good idea to talk about some digital and social roles and offer some tips on getting these types of job opportunities. Many times job descriptions for these roles are vague which makes it difficult to determine the skills that will make you a top candidate. I hope my notes will help someone in their search!




Digital Strategist

Let's talk about what a digital strategist does on a day-to-day basis.  This person will have a very strong understanding of digital marketing and social media strategies and tools. One thing that will set this person a part from other candidates is having the ability to understand the digital space and complement that with an understanding of traditional PR to create integrated communications campaigns. An understanding of creative capabilities like copy writing and design are helpful as well. A digital strategist should always be working to develop innovative campaigns to achieve client goals. Speaking of clients, it is a MUST to have great client experience and be able to provide high quality work to a diverse set of clients. This includes understanding and anticipating client needs, business objectives and also the ability to communicate well effectively. Being available to your clients and gaining trust is also important. Many times a digital strategist will lead communication with the clients directly, sometimes acting as the main client contact, while working with internal team members to brainstorm and carry out various strategies. Due to the nature of the role, a person would generally have at least 5 years of experience to be a competitive candidate at an agency.

Social Media Strategist

Now, a social strategist typically does not need to have an in-depth understanding of traditional PR and digital marketing. This knowledge helps, but may not be an absolute need. The main responsibilities are to stay ahead of social media and industry trends and identify opportunities to market the client via social channels. The social strategist will be an expert at navigating sites like; Facebook, Twitter, Periscope, YouTube, Pinterest, LinkedIn, Instagram and many more. Let's look at an example of work. Let's just say an extremely popular YouTuber posts a positive video review about product X by company Y (which happens to be your client).  Company Y has just developed a new product, product Z. The social media strategist knows of the happening and will develop a strategy with social content to highlight the opportunity to market the new product. They may even be the person to get in front of the client to present the opportunity and offerings. Now this may not be the most exciting example, but it is definitely something that could happen. The social strategist is normally the one building a full social calendar of content for the client to post within their channels. The planning of the calendar is to optimize business opportunities and gain increased engagement.

As always,
Happy Hunting!


Jess 

Wednesday, June 8, 2016

How to Help Recruiters Find You

Online is where it's at! Especially when it comes to recruiting. 

The years of employers hiring strictly from an existing applicant database is long gone. Now recruiters all over the world are using tools like LinkedIn Recruiter to identify passive candidates. Let's talk about some of the ways recruiters are now finding key talent and how you can be sure to be one of the candidates they find. 

1. Professional online profile. 

If you don't have a LinkedIn profile, you are lowering your chances of finding a job in the professional sector. LinkedIn has more than 400 million users and is a primary tool for HR professionals to connect with potential talent. Recruiters use a specific recruiting account that is designed to allow access to viewing any person on LinkedIn. Without this type of account users are only searchable within different degrees of connections. It’s similar to Facebook, in that is I have a mutual friend or connection, I should be able to search and view their complete profile. Recruiters also use the LinkedIn recruiter tool with Boolean search techniques to identify talent. Typically recruiters will begin searching for talent on LinkedIn and other tools like Indeed.com, Dice.com or even Google before a job description is even posted! My colleagues in the US and Europe specifically use LinkedIn and also some parts of Asia as well. If you do not currently have a LinkedIn account, you should definitely join!




Other ways to make an online presence would be to create things like an online portfolio, online blog, online resume and/or online video reel. Creating these type of sites will provide ways outside of LinkedIn to allow you to be searchable by recruiters. For example, sites like Behance.com and Vimeo.com are great sites that recruiters look to for key creative talent. Learn what your key niche websites are and create an account. These also allow an easy way to demonstrate your work quality, which employers need to see. 

2. Network. 

I've mentioned the importance of networking a few times through this blog, because it is very important. Many people are presented opportunities due to having a strong network. When is the last time you went to a networking event within your specific industry? HR professionals and recruiters search out specific industry events to identify key talent for their open positions. They may communicate their jobs out to specific groups or join various events to connect with talent directly. I personally worked as a recruiter for many years and in order to tap into top talent, I attended events where I thought I'd find the right people. When searching for IT candidates, I attended college career fairs and IT events like SharePoint Saturday in St. Louis

3. Be accessible. 

Check your online accounts often and stay in touch with key groups that you are a member of. These groups may have job leads or contacts. I cannot count how many times I've asked for referrals from niche groups and received no one. I believe this is because we don't typically have people top of mind if we haven't heard from them in a while.  

Be sure to especially stay connected when you are actively seeking a job. It is important to check your emails and online profiles at least daily to be aware of jobs leads. Many people have LinkedIn accounts, but do not check them frequently enough. I've received countless of follow up LinkedIn messages after a job I had reached out to them about weeks and sometimes months ago has already been filled! Often times the person had been actively searching or considering a job move and just did not see my message soon enough. Be sure to be accessible when you are actively looking for a job and even when you aren't.  

I hope these tidbits are helpful to any job seekers out there! 

Happy Hunting!
Jess

Sunday, June 5, 2016

Angel




Like an angel you spoke to me

Your eyes were so pure

They sparkled like a diamond
You were captivating

I watched your every movement
It was impossible for me to look away
To see your hand gracefully touch mine
And to feel your skin, so soft

Like a dove
Without mark or blemish
So beautiful 
So gentle

Then it all changed
Suddenly you disappeared
As quickly as you had come
Like it was all a dream

Was it simply my imagination?
Did i really see,... and feel...
But wait, i see something...
You left behind

A feather
Just as pure and soft as you were

My Angel



Jess


Wednesday, June 1, 2016

How HR Can Help Your Career

I know I know…  HR is normally the one breaking up parties and reminding everyone about company policy.  This is all true, but I want to share some specific ways that HR teams can help maintain or advance your career.

1. Training and Development

Do you know what training resources are available to you?  Would you like to have certifications compensated by your employer?

The first step to understanding what training opportunities are available to you is to take a little stroll over to HR.  You may not have learned about the developmental programs during your on-boarding, but there still may be opportunities.  A major area of an HR manager's role is to be aware of training initiatives and often companies have HR specialists focused on managing employee training.  HR will also be able to talk through some of your career plans and help empower you to take professional development into your own hands.  Training may mean different things to different people, however HR can help get you the development opportunities you are looking for.

2. Compensation and Benefits

Now this one really is for folks that may have an outside HR contact.  I would not recommend going to your company's HR team and asking about compensation, however HR managers should understand the market rate of most common jobs. Recruiters would be a good resource as well. For example, let's just say that you are an accountant holding a CPA, with 3 years of experience.  You are interested in knowing if your current compensation package is relative with the market.  Most recruiters will be able to help.  After learning about your skill set, the realistic pay standards you should have will be easier to determine when talking with a recruiter.

Compensation and benefits can also be confusing once you are considering a job opportunity.  Most companies have specific HR personnel that manage these areas specifically.  When you have questions on compensation or benefits and how they are determined or even the various benefits/perks your company offers, be sure to talk with an HR representative.

3. Employee Issues and Communication

Unfortunately, employee issues happen every once in a while.  Maybe an employee has an issue with a bad manager or an employee has an issue with an under-performing employee...  HR is available to help with employee issues when they arise.  HR can help equip you with strategy and communication to deal with conflicts or even act as a mediator to determine a resolution.

The great thing about HR is that they are able to help ensure the best interests of the company when resolving issues.  HR professionals will be able to determine the best way to handle situations while also being legally compliant. 


Jess 

Monday, May 30, 2016

Why I Chose Clear Braces

Making the decision to get braces as an adult was not an easy one, but I am so glad I did. There were a number of things to consider before determining which type of braces would work best for me. Ultimately, I decided to go with clear braces and below I breakdown the main factors why.  

1. Cost. When comparing traditional (metal) braces, clear braces, Incognito (lingual) braces and Invisalign, I found that traditional and clear braces were the least pricey. Incognito braces are the most recent addition to the array of orthodontic treatments. The actual brackets are custom made for each tooth and the results are said to be the most precise because the orthodontist has more control over your tooth movement. It may be difficult to find certified orthodontists able to provide this type of treatment. My orthodontist told me that he had to be trained in Germany! If you are somewhat frugal like I am, I'd definitely consider traditional or clear braces.  

2. Effectiveness. Let's face it, no one is planning to undergo a painful and expensive treatment that will not provide optimal results. From talking with my dentist and after some orthodontic consultations, I decided that Invisalign would not be the best option for me. From my research and conversations with professionals, Invisalign seems best used for minor orthodontic treatments. In my case, I had some crowding and also an overbite that needed correcting. After deciding that Incognito was out of the picture due to the cost, it came down to traditional or clear braces as the best option. If you are willing to pay more for the treatment, Incognito seems to offer the most precise results, as mentioned earlier.

3. Visibility. Well, I am 25 years old and not really feeling the metal mouth look.  With this in mind, my options were clear or Incognito braces and Invisalign. The most invisible option here is Incognito, since the brackets are behind the teeth and easily unseen. The next option would be Invisalign, with only the possibility of having a slight plastic-like look to your teeth. Last were clear braces. The brackets are clear, however the thin wire can be viewed when someone is nearby.  I decided that I could live with that! I also liked that the braces are almost unseen in pictures.


4. Pain. Just the thought of a wire and metal brackets rubbing against my tongue, made any plans of incognito braces dwindle quickly. After searching online I found a video from Youtuber WhatDaMell. She explains how painful the braces were initially and how she ate soup for about a month after getting the braces due to the pain! I'd personally rather have rubbing against my cheeks instead of cuts on my tongue. Also, I didn't want to have any difficulty talking. She mentioned having a slight lisp when speaking. I worked as a corporate recruiter at this time and most of my days involved talking with candidates and hiring teams.


5. Treatment Duration. I am working on being more patient, however when it comes to the treatment time I wanted it to be as quick as possible. In this case, Invisalign would have taken the longest amount of time. Also a down side of Invisalign is that the person wearing Invisalign has be more responsible with the treatment by keeping the trays on for at least 22 hours a day, only removing them for dental cleaning and eating. I didn’t want that high possibility of a delayed treatment. Incognito braces also have shorter duration, due to the higher effectiveness.

I hope this helps someone considering braces. Best wishes to you on your journey to having a better, brighter smile!


Jess

Thursday, May 26, 2016

Live differently

Blue skies and green fields
Dark nights and bright lights
Long road ahead but short time span
Make your life worthwhile.


Breathe in the adventures of the world
See beyond the natural
Feel both the outer parts and the inner
Live and win everyday.


Listen to what you cannot hear
Speak the words that you cannot say
Touch what is out of reach
Go where you have never been.


Learn the things that have been forgotten
Find the treasures that have been hidden
Read more than books
Tell more than stories.


Play the game of life
Aim away from the target
Build with paper instead of bricks
Give more than you take


Live in a different way



Jess

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Are you prepared for an emergency?





Some call it Murphy, others bad luck and many of us just call it life. We all have experienced or will experience, an unplanned situation. Maybe it's a job loss, an unexpected addition to the family, or even an unfortunate accident.

So many things can pop up into our lives and throw us off balance. An emergency fund is something that can really help with occasional mishaps. Dave Ramsey, a very well-known financial adviser and best-selling author, proposes 7 baby steps to help us gain financial independence. It’s no surprise to me, that first step recommended is to save $1,000 in an emergency fund. Among Dave's baby steps include getting out of debt, saving and investing for retirement. Below I've listed the baby steps outlined by Dave. 

Baby Step 1Build a $1,000 Emergency Fund
This is the starting point! Dave makes the case that this sets the stage for everything beyond this step. He even goes on to say that things will be way more challenging, to implement the plan without  this step. Why? Well, let’s think about it for a second. If you’re trying to get out of debt or save money, and something comes up out of the blue, you’ll need to either stop the debt payments, add on another debt to cover costs or stop the savings process. Dave encourages us to think of the emergency fund just like insurance, it’s not there to gain interest, but to insure us when situations occur.
         
Baby Step 2  Pay off all debts (outside of your house)
This is huge! This point here is why I’ve been listening to Dave Ramsey for the past year. Dave explains the debt snowball as a key tool for debt freedom and it really works! The debt snowball is the process of lining up all of your debts (minus your house loan) and paying each debt minimum each month while using any additional to pay extra on the smallest debt. You keep the process going until all of your debts are paid.   

Baby Step 3 Save 3 to 6 months of expenses in savings
This one is an extension of step 1. Now that the debts are gone, you can build an effective emergency fund.

Baby Step 4 Invest 15% of household income into retirement funds
Save, save and save some more! Dave recommends saving money into a Roth IRA and other pre-tax retirement.

Baby Step 5College funding for children.
I do not have children, so I will be passing this one up, however Dave suggest saving money into a 529 savings fund or ESA (education saving account) if you indeed have children.

Baby Step 6Pay off home early
Now it’s time to fully get out of debt and have zero debt payments! So much interest can be saved by paying your home off early. Plan to pay your house off in less than 15 years instead of 30+ years, which is the norm for most people.

Baby Step 7 Build wealth and give
Now here is the fun part! The last step is all about continuing to grow your wealth and most importantly enjoying it! Time to celebrate your hard work!

Well there you have it - the financial roadmap from ‘Uncle Dave’. I can speak from experience of how helpful it is to plan for emergencies. After following Dave and implementing his steps, an emergency feel less like a punch in the face and more like a little splinter. No, it's not fun. And yes, it’s annoying. However, it’s manageable. 

Alright folks, let's save up some cash and develop an emergency fund. The next time life happens, let’s be ready to take the punch! 


Jess

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Blind and Foolish





I tried to be as nice to you as I could
I loved you like no other
I wanted to make you happy
But all I did was lose apart of myself

I gave up myself for you
I did whatever you wanted of me
My only goal was to please you
Now I just wish to forget you

I try each day to put you out my mind
But it makes me think of you more
I suppose I loved you too much
I gave up too much to have you

I trusted you blindly and foolishly
Not listening to the distrust I felt inside
I would never believe you were not good for me
Although many people tried to tell me

Stupidly I trusted you over my best of friends 
I wanted too badly for you to love
I didn’t care about anyone but you
Until I realized that the love I had was unreturned

You never knew how much I cared
How much I gave of myself
You never understood my feelings
Or what I gave up to have you

Jess

Monday, May 16, 2016

Love

Keeping all of your feelings inside... 
Why is it so hard to end a love 
But so easy to start one 
So hard to tell a person your feelings 
But even harder to keep them inside 



When do you know when to love 
And when to stop loving 
When to end a love 
And how to start a new one....